Earlier this week, my love and I celebrated our fifth year anniversary. I’d be lying if I said there were times we didn’t know we would get here so this anniversary feels monumental.
I still can’t believe that five whole years ago, my love and I jumped the broom on a beach in the Dominican Republic. In front of God, our family and friends, we professed our love for each other vowing for better or worse.
But.
Can I tell you something? In hindsight, marital vows feel a little like forcing children to pledge allegiance to the flag. That sounds grim, I know, but hear me out. I don’t know about you, but I didn’t know what it meant to “pledge allegiance” to anything. Add that to the fact that I was too young to know what those words meant, your girl was just reciting words.
In the simplest sense, yes, I understood every word of my marital vows. But, I didn’t understand the application of those words. Now, I realize I was just a twenty-something third grader once again, reciting words.
It wasn’t until at least my second year of marriage, that I understood what those vows meant. Also, it wasn’t until then that I knew how to define marriage for myself. I assume that’s true for a lot of people because nobody talks about marriage. At least, not what matters.
So, for our fifth year anniversary, my love and I recorded our views on marriage. In the videos, we discuss what marriage means to us, honoring different love languages and how to maintain a healthy marriage. We also discuss the importance of managing finances as a couple in great detail. You can watch them here:
