Near the end of last year, I was stuck and confused about who I was, who I wanted to be and what I was doing with my life. I was all over the place and I didn’t like how it felt so I decided to make more of an effort to figure out those things. I am still working on it and this ish is hard.
Where are you supposed to start when you are confused about what it means to be you, right? There is no manual and you begin to question what you thought you knew about yourself. It just feels like you are going in circles. I know I was. But the one thing that I have always known about myself is I need to know why things are the way they are. I can’t ever just take a simple response. I need to know the back story or the logic behind the answer.
So when I stumbled upon this personality test on Monday, I was super excited. I have never taken one, but I hear good things about them so I wanted to see if it could really pinpoint who I was based on my responses. It did…the second time around.
Guys if you are going to take it and I hope you do, don’t be like me the first time and answer the questions how you think you should answer them. Be honest because you will definitely get some off results. The first time it said I could be a scientist or engineer. Absolutely Not! And even though I was reading the characteristics thinking “this is not me,” I was still trying to work it out and see some very small similarity to who I am. Nope. It just wasn’t working out.
But the second time, the results were dead on I couldn’t believe my eyes. I am an INFJ, the protector. Here are some characteristics that I strongly Identify with:
“INFJs have uncanny insight into people and situations. They get “feelings” about things and intuitively understand them. As an extreme example, some INFJs report experiences of a psychic nature, such as getting strong feelings about there being a problem with a loved one, and discovering later that they were in a car accident. This is the sort of thing that other types may scorn and scoff at, and the INFJ themself does not really understand their intuition at a level which can be verbalized. Consequently, most INFJs are protective of their inner selves, sharing only what they choose to share when they choose to share it. They are deep, complex individuals, who are quite private and typically difficult to understand. INFJs hold back part of themselves, and can be secretive.”
As creepy as it may sound, I actually do have those strong feelings that tells me something is wrong with somebody. I know it sounds strange, but less than a year of dating my boyfriend, I could tell something was wrong with him and his grandmom. I was at my aunt’s house cleaning my room and an image of his grandmother popped in my head. I thought it was weird because I had only seen and met her once. Later that night, I learned that she was in the hospital. That whole situation still baffles me. And I am definitely protective of myself and what I share with others, but I am working on it.
“Because the INFJ has such strong intuitive capabilities, they trust their own instincts above all else. This may result in an INFJ stubborness and tendency to ignore other people’s opinions. They believe that they’re right.”
It’s sad, but very very true. Do you want to know what gives me hope for the future?
“INFJ is a natural nurturer; patient, devoted and protective. They make loving parents and usually have strong bonds with their offspring. They have high expectations of their children, and push them to be the best that they can be. This can sometimes manifest itself in the INFJ being hard-nosed and stubborn. But generally, children of an INFJ get devoted and sincere parental guidance, combined with deep caring.”
I love everything about this and I hope that I am the type of parent this test said I will be, you know a long, long time from now. Other characteristics include:
“Accurately suspicious about others’ motives, INFJs are not easily led. These are the people that you can rarely fool any of the time. Though affable and sympathetic to most, INFJs are selective about their friends. Such a friendship is a symbiotic bond that transcends mere words.
“INFJs have a knack for fluency in language and facility in communication. In addition, nonverbal sensitivity enables the INFJ to know and be known by others intimately.” -from here
What did your results reveal about you? Were they spot on? Have a great weekend!
